Here are the course modules:
The science of being happy
I believe that happy relationships start with happy singles … and I’ve got the science to prove it. This module will ignite your happiness by introducing you to new daily practices to start moving your happiness set point while your cultivate gratitude and mindfulness. We’ll dig in to understand how to make true changes so that all of the amazing things you learn actually stick. That’s the point!
The anatomy of modern relationships
If you’re feeling lost and confused in your love life, you’re not alone. The landscape of love has shifted and relationships in 2018 are dramatically different than they’ve ever been before ... so why are we dating the same way we did in 1968? In this module, you’re going to learn what love really looks like and how to build it in healthy and working relationships. Your mind will be nothing less than blown.
Uncovering your love and attachment styles
So many times we meet someone, think there’s potential and then something small but weird comes up that makes us think, “I guess this just isn’t a good match …” but that’s not necessarily true.
We all learn to love in different ways. Someone may be a great match for you, but they just don’t know how to love you. That means digging in to how you first learned love: Was it healthy? Is it helping you attract healthy people, or is it leading you down a road of unhappiness and disconnection?
Cultivating deep self knowledge
We’re all unique, sparkly unicorns because we each have different personalities, beliefs, and experiences. Because of that, we need different things in order to feel happy and safe. Knowing what you need to feel good and thrive in a relationship is an absolute must when you’re dating, yet so few of us really take the time to figure this stuff out.
Instead, we wait for the other person to make us feel happy and safe, and that, sugarpants, is a recipe for relationship disaster.
In this module, we’ll explore why values are so important, and you’ll learn how to recognize matching values in potential dates.
We’ll also uncover your strengths, so you know exactly what you have to offer a relationship, and what you need from another in order for the relationship to work.
We’ll also learn how to communicate all this without handing someone a questionnaire and a pie chart. Promise.
Rewriting your story
We all have a story, usually one that’s based on past experiences and things we’ve made up about ourselves along the way. In this module, we’re going to look into that story and investigate what beliefs and mindsets come along with it.
After we look at your story, what parts of your story can you ditch? What parts can you rewrite to create a story that moves you towards love, and away from fear?
Building self-worth and self-compassion
Self-worth is one of the most important aspects of dating. If we don’t have it, everyone we meet becomes a potential “fixer”— and expecting someone else to make you feel worthy will kill a relationship faster than Raid kills ants.
This week, you’ll learn what self-worth really is, and why it really is so important. We’ll look at how your self-worth, or lack thereof, is showing up in your dating and relationships, and we’ll also do a self-worth assessment which will reveal specific aspects you’ll need to work on. Finally, you’ll learn techniques to build your self-compassion, which in turn will boost your self-worth and equip you with the resilience to deal with rejection while dating like a boss. This shit will change your life.
Mastering your thoughts and beliefs
Your mind talks a lot of smack. It’s especially good at feeding you wackadoo thoughts and made-up stories that don’t help you AT ALL.
In this module, I’ll show you how to teach people how to treat you by exploring how you carry yourself, what you tolerate and how you react and respond to people and situations. Usually all of that is based on how we feel about ourselves deep on the inside, but trust me, your lack of confidence is being broadcast on the outside loud and clear.
Which is why I’ll show you how to understand the different types of thoughts and how to challenge what isn’t working for you anymore. You’ll learn about the beliefs and thinking traps that are keeping you unhappy and discover how to change the worry cycle that is affecting your dating and relationships.
Creating positive thinking and resilience
After we understand what’s going on in your head, you’re going to learn reframing techniques to get you through even the toughest days (and dates). As well as how to fully process rejection and move on from it. I’ll also equip you with the tools you need to control your thoughts so they don’t control you.
Building boundaries and trust
Do you never want to say “no” to others because you’re afraid they’ll be upset or not like you? Do you bend over backwards to please others? Do you overshare (vomit out your life story) with people you just met because they are “just going to have to like you for who you are”? (Yup, that’s a boundary issue too.)
In this module, we’re going to look at PEOPLE PLEASING (trust me, it is killing you), CO-DEPENDENCE and THOSE BIG FUCKING WALLS you like to put up and pretend are healthy (you like to call that being “picky”). YOU ARE GOING TO DISCOVER INTERDEPENDENCE and it will change everything. (Hint: That’s where everyone feels fucking amazing!)
Being vulnerable and available
Want to know what the number one most attractive quality is? Physical and emotional availability (ok, that’s two; so sue me).
Every day, I have ladies that tell me that they are so available it’s crazy! They are on every app or site, going to meet-ups and talking to all of their friends to set them up. Availability is NOT a problem.
But …are you sure?
When people meet you they’ll instantly be looking to see how they fit into your life and what they can bring to your relationship … but is there actually room for them? Or are you so busy being Miss Awesome Independent that people meet you and have ZERO idea how to fit into your life?
In this module, you’ll learn how to make sure you are coming off as physically and emotionally available, FIGURING OUT HOW PEOPLE FIT INTO YOUR LIFE, AND WHY VULNERABILITY IS the key to great love!
If you’re dating but never connecting deeper, this is a MUST for you.
Now that you know all of the things, how do you actually use them for dating? I got you, boo. In this module, you’ll discover first-date mindsets and learn the ONLY three questions you need to ask yourself after every date.
Next, I’ll show you how to spot emotional unavailability sooner rather than later and what to do when you do.
Finally, you’ll learn when and how to be vulnerable in new situations and when to set boundaries. I’m even going to give you a scripts for the DTR (Define the Relationship) talk and other awkward dating situations. Phew!
So what happens when you actually meet someone you like? You both are smitten and excited and ready to do this, right? Truth? This is where the real work comes in. Sharing your OM with them and helping them build their own. I’m going to teach you how to get through the power struggle phase that every couple goes through — and end up happy on the other side. You’ll also learn how to peacefully and happily resolve conflicts (‘cause that shit is inevitable).