Don’t take my word for it! (anyone get that Reading Rainbow reference?)

"After my time with Kira I decided to travel solo over 12K miles working on myself along the way. One of my last stops was my hometown where I reunited with a childhood friend. We are now co-creating a beautiful relationship where everything is falling into place effortlessly, beautifully. And because of the OM I recognized a great man and I was ready.

The rest of my life relationships, all of them, will be blessed because Kira helped me find my way. Fix thyself and the rest will follow."

Cindy -  Phoenix, AZ

Paula - Akron, OH (recently engaged)

"Right now I am in the best relationship of my life and I do not say that lightly. We have been in a relationship for 15 months. It's a relationship filled with mutual respect and love. We communicate very well together and are deeply in love with each other. We both have past hurts that creep up sometimes and I'm most proud that we can communicate so well so we know what we need from each other. Last week he said something unintentionally that hurt me and I was able to articulate what it was that he said and how it made me feel and he was able to immediately realize why I would feel that way. We talked it out and it was a very grown up conversation. I can't believe it took me 7 years to find him but it was worth the wait. I just now texted him and asked him if he had anything to add and he said 'Life is best when shared with someone special. Keep it light and full of laughter'. That sums up our relationship so well.   

Krystal - Norwich, CT

"Before the OM I felt like I only chose unavailable men. They were in another relationship, emotionally unavailable, long-distance, demanding jobs…But the OM showed me that I was being unavailable because I was not showing up fully as myself and asking for what was important to me. I also learned that I needed to to look for men who I deserved to have in my life, vs me trying to fit the desires and lifestyles or "who they were looking for".

Julie - Madison, WI

Michelle -  Madison, WI

"I’m so thankful I did the OM and know I wouldn’t be in this much better place without it. I feel WAY better equipped when it comes to dating and relationships. Working with Kira in person is AWESOME, and she’s one of my biggest cheerleaders. My friendships have gotten so much stronger. Now when I have a problem my friends say things like: how can I support you in this moment? What’s really going on in this situation that’s making you feel this way? I’ve gotten better at teaching people how to treat me. This process isn’t about finding the perfect relationship with a romantic partner; this class is about improving your relationship with yourself, and all the “ships” you have in life: family, friends, coworkers, AND significant others."

Kendra - Washington DC

Leah - Madison, WI (now 2 years and counting!)

Sherri - Philadelphia, PA

 Jeanne, Madison, WI (now happily married )

"I was struggling with getting past my own barriers. I knew where I wanted to be with my life, but i was struggling with the "how to" get there. But after the OM I can fully understand myself and what went wrong in my past to put me in the position I am now. I now feel more confident to continue down my dating path knowing I can handle whatever is thrown my way. OM has given me perspective and has called me out on the many excuses I was believing for such a long time. I loved the OM and everything it did for me! it changed my whole world for the better!" 

Kim, Denver, CO

"Before I decided to begin the Owner's Manual, I was struggling to extricate myself from a relationship that had slowly dimmed my light. My life was bountiful and good in every area except my personal relationship, and I allowed that relationship to make everything seem grey. I had been cheated on multiple times by a person who said I was the best thing that had ever happened to him and that he loved me very much. When we actually spent time together, it was fun and engaging. And when we were apart (even sometimes when we were together, if I'm really honest), I found myself spinning about where he was, what he was doing, who he was talking to, why his phone was buzzing, what he actually meant when he told me something - and it was utterly sad and exhausting. I thought I would never find better.

Amy - Little Rock, AR

Kathleen - Winston-Salem, NC

Getting real with ourselves and vulnerable with others can feel super scary! But let me tell you this. Getting real and getting vulnerable are crucial for all relationships, so why not practice in a completely safe and supportive space. So when you are ready to get to know someone, you already have practiced the skills to do it!

Weekly Q & A with Kira are Mondays at 8 pm ET and Wednesdays at 1:00 pm ET. You can come to one or both. You can stay for 20 minutes just to talk out what is going on with you or stay the whole time to listen, learn & support other ladies in the OM. Up to you. The call-in software has a raise your hand feature, so when you are ready to talk or ask a question, just raise your hand!

Whenever works for both of you. When you sign-up, you will get a calendar link to schedule your sessions with your accountability coach. You get six sessions included with the OM, but you are welcome to purchase more if you need more support for $150 an hour.

The stunning adults-only, all-inclusive UNICO 20°87° resort in Riviera Maya, MX. You can check it out here. https://www.unicohotelrivieramaya.com/ It is the most magical place on earth. Did you notice Unico is the first part of unicorn? Coincidence? I think not.

Yes! You get the 5 day event for free with the Owner’s Manual. However, you do have to pay for your resort accommodations and transportation (flight/shuttle) to the resort.  

Cancun International Airport. You will be surprised how affordable the prices are.

Prices vary on the time of year but the average for 5 days/4 nights is about $1100 for shared oceanfront room or $1700 for a single. It is worth every fucking penny.

Absolutely. When people sign-up we will ask if they are looking for roommates

I will be running these events every 2-3 months so you can always make the next one!

The event is an important part of this process and my goal is to get 100% participation for your sake, not mine. These events are totally and completely life-changing. However, the events are a totally optional part of the process.

You will want to put aside 2-3 hours a week for the work.

Here are the course modules:

I believe that happy relationships start with happy singles … and I’ve got the science to prove it. This module will ignite your happiness by introducing you to new daily practices to start moving your happiness set point while your cultivate gratitude and mindfulness. We’ll dig in to understand how to make true changes so that all of the amazing things you learn actually stick. That’s the point!

If you’re feeling lost and confused in your love life, you’re not alone. The landscape of love has shifted and relationships in 2018 are dramatically different than they’ve ever been before ... so why are we dating the same way we did in 1968? In this module, you’re going to learn what love really looks like and how to build it in healthy and working relationships. Your mind will be nothing less than blown. 

So many times we meet someone, think there’s potential and then something small but weird comes up that makes us think, “I guess this just isn’t a good match …” but that’s not necessarily true.

We all learn to love in different ways. Someone may be a great match for you, but they just don’t know how to love you. That means digging in to how you first learned love: Was it healthy? Is it helping you attract healthy people, or is it leading you down a road of unhappiness and disconnection?

We’re all unique, sparkly unicorns because we each have different personalities, beliefs, and experiences. Because of that, we need different things in order to feel happy and safe. Knowing what you need to feel good and thrive in a relationship is an absolute must when you’re dating, yet so few of us really take the time to figure this stuff out.

Instead, we wait for the other person to make us feel happy and safe, and that, sugarpants, is a recipe for relationship disaster.

In this module, we’ll explore why values are so important, and you’ll learn how to recognize matching values in potential dates.

We’ll also uncover your strengths, so you know exactly what you have to offer a relationship, and what you need from another in order for the relationship to work.

We’ll also learn how to communicate all this without handing someone a questionnaire and a pie chart. Promise.

We all have a story, usually one that’s based on past experiences and things we’ve made up about ourselves along the way. In this module, we’re going to look into that story and investigate what beliefs and mindsets come along with it. 

After we look at your story, what parts of your story can you ditch? What parts can you rewrite to create a story that moves you towards love, and away from fear?

Self-worth is one of the most important aspects of dating. If we don’t have it, everyone we meet becomes a potential “fixer”— and expecting someone else to make you feel worthy will kill a relationship faster than Raid kills ants.

This week, you’ll learn what self-worth really is, and why it really is so important. We’ll look at how your self-worth, or lack thereof, is showing up in your dating and relationships, and we’ll also do a self-worth assessment which will reveal specific aspects you’ll need to work on. Finally, you’ll learn techniques to build your self-compassion, which in turn will boost your self-worth and equip you with the resilience to deal with rejection while dating like a boss. This shit will change your life.

Your mind talks a lot of smack. It’s especially good at feeding you wackadoo thoughts and made-up stories that don’t help you AT ALL.

In this module, I’ll show you how to teach people how to treat you by exploring how you carry yourself, what you tolerate and how you react and respond to people and situations. Usually all of that is based on how we feel about ourselves deep on the inside, but trust me, your lack of confidence is being broadcast on the outside loud and clear.

Which is why I’ll show you how to understand the different types of thoughts and how to challenge what isn’t working for you anymore. You’ll learn about the beliefs and thinking traps that are keeping you unhappy and discover how to change the worry cycle that is affecting your dating and relationships. 

After we understand what’s going on in your head, you’re going to learn reframing techniques to get you through even the toughest days (and dates). As well as how to fully process rejection and move on from it. I’ll also equip you with the tools you need to control your thoughts so they don’t control you.

Do you never want to say “no” to others because you’re afraid they’ll be upset or not like you? Do you bend over backwards to please others? Do you overshare (vomit out your life story) with people you just met because they are “just going to have to like you for who you are”? (Yup, that’s a boundary issue too.)

In this module, we’re going to look at PEOPLE PLEASING (trust me, it is killing you), CO-DEPENDENCE and THOSE BIG FUCKING WALLS you like to put up and pretend are healthy (you like to call that being “picky”). YOU ARE GOING TO DISCOVER INTERDEPENDENCE and it will change everything. (Hint: That’s where everyone feels fucking amazing!)

Want to know what the number one most attractive quality is? Physical and emotional availability (ok, that’s two; so sue me).  

Every day, I have ladies that tell me that they are so available it’s crazy! They are on every app or site, going to meet-ups and talking to all of their friends to set them up. Availability is NOT a problem.

But …are you sure?

When people meet you they’ll instantly be looking to see how they fit into your life and what they can bring to your relationship … but is there actually room for them? Or are you so busy being Miss Awesome Independent that people meet you and have ZERO idea how to fit into your life? 

In this module, you’ll learn how to make sure you are coming off as physically and emotionally available, FIGURING OUT HOW PEOPLE FIT INTO YOUR LIFE, AND WHY VULNERABILITY IS the key to great love!  

If you’re dating but never connecting deeper, this is a MUST for you.

Now that you know all of the things, how do you actually use them for dating? I got you, boo. In this module, you’ll discover first-date mindsets and learn the ONLY three questions you need to ask yourself after every date. 

Next, I’ll show you how to spot emotional unavailability sooner rather than later and what to do when you do. 

Finally, you’ll learn when and how to be vulnerable in new situations and when to set boundaries. I’m even going to give you a scripts for the DTR (Define the Relationship) talk and other awkward dating situations. Phew! 

So what happens when you actually meet someone you like? You both are smitten and excited and ready to do this, right? Truth? This is where the real work comes in. Sharing your OM with them and helping them build their own. I’m going to teach you how to get through the power struggle phase that every couple goes through — and end up happy on the other side. You’ll also learn how to peacefully and happily resolve conflicts (‘cause that shit is inevitable).